Consent is a crucial aspect of healthy sexual encounters. It ensures all parties involved are comfortable,willing, and enthusiastic about engaging in sexual activities. This applies to married couples, committed relationships, and casual dating. In casual dating, both partners must consent to sex. Even if you've consented and are in the middle of the act, you can still stop, communicate your decision to your partner. They must respect your choice and listen to you, without pressuring or coercing you into continuing. You've every right to stop sexual activity at any time. It doesn't matter if your partner has mutual feeling or not. Or during the act his or her feelings might've picked up. Your decision is about you, not them. Sex isn't a favour; it's mutual. Some people don't understand what consent and non-consent sex mean.
Signs of consent sex:
-Verbal agreement ("Yes" I want to")
-Non-verbal cues( nodding, smiling)
-Active participation
- Initiation
It's your right to stop sexual activity at any time. Don't compromise your instincts, even if others might think you're acting childish or immature. Prioritize your comfort and well-being. Some may try to blame, shame, or criticize you for asserting your boundaries. Ignore the negativity and listen to your inner voice. It's there to protect you. Many have ignored their instincts, leading to unintended consequences such as unplanned pregnancies, sexually transmitted infectious (STIs), HIV, emotional trauma, and feelings of regret or exploitation. Some even feel raped or forced, and those feelings are valid. Trust your instincts. They exist to safeguard your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. Remember, prioritizing your safety and comfort is essential.
Consent sex essetials
- Prevents sexual assault and misconduct
- Respects boundaries and autonomy
- Builds trust and communication
- Enhances intimacy and pleasure
- Reduces risk of STIs and unintended pregnancy
Obtain consent sex
You need to ask for permission before engaging in sexual activity. You're not entitled for someone's body. It maybe that you're used to be doing that often but if this person isn't in the mood, he or she rejects it, let it slide. When you want it, you need to use a clear and direct language. You need to be sure if this person also want it. Voluntary agreement helps and respect "No" or "Stop" immediately. While you're busy with it,you need to reconfirm if this person still want to engage. People change their minds during the act and some might be scared to tell.
Signs of non-consent sex
You'll mostly feel the silence during the act or hesitation. Ask if he or she is still with you. Or if that person still want to continue. Some would push you because they might be feeling discomfort. And when it comes to alcohol, avoid a engaging into intimacy when both are under influence. Some might wake up tomorrow and say they were forced into an act. So, it's rape. Many are busy paying penalties of unconsented sex and others in jail just because they thought they were in a relationships.
Emotional blackmail
Emotional blackmail can be a form of coercion or manipulation to persuade someone into intimate or sexual activities. If you try by all means to end up to seeing yourself manipulating the next person for sexual activities, that's guilt tripping.
Comments like:
- If you really love me you'd have sex with me.
- Threats: I'll leave or end the relationship.
- Self-pity: I'll hurt you if you don't want to.
- Passage - aggressive comments: you never show affection.
- Gaslighting: you're overracting and being too sensitive.
- Playing victim: you owe me or you're responsible for my happiness.
Signs of emotional blackmail
- Feeling pressured, coerced, or cornered.
- Sense of obligation or duty.
- Fear of rejection or abandonment.
- Emotional distress or anxiety.
- Feeling trapped or suffocated.
- Lack of clear boundaries.
- Unclear or ambiguous communication.
Effects of Emotional blackmail
- Emotional distress
- Loss of autonomy
- Decreased self-esteem
- Anxiety or depression.
- Trauma or PSTD
- Unhealthy relationships
- Sexual coercion or assault.
Protect yourself. Bad experience of casual Mjolo mustn't stop you from dating. There are good people out there. You should know a person you're in casual dating better.
